I received a simple "hey" in Messenger, and I ignored it for a few days, thinking, who the fuck is this? I also had a friend request but had not accepted it either. So I asked, "Do I know you?" And he replied that he was looking for a friend to chat with. I noticed that his spelling of simple English words was bad (first bad sign).
He wanted someone he could trust and chat with. I asked how he came across me, and he claimed he saw my "pretty face." He told me he googled my name. He did.
I did and did not realize it had all the stuff about my birth name, my married names, when I was saved by a fireman, and so on. I googled my name, and there were five pages with my name associated on all of them.